Today I feel like life is a tornado! There is so much to be done and only 24 short hours in a day. I tend to be a giver. Often friends and family ask for things, and no matter what I have going on I will extend myself to do more than I really should. I am trying very hard to learn to say no because I tend to create way too much stress for myself when I take on so much.
Today I had to take Laynee to the eye doctor to get her glasses replaced. I no sooner got home and my friend called and wanted a ride to Decorah. I have 2 hours free this afternoon so I instantly started trying to think of how I could make it work. The more I thought about it I realized I would really like to have this 2 hours to myself to unwind a little and take a shower and enjoy my daughter a little bit. At 4pm we have my niece's birthday party and are going out with my BFF for her birthday tonight. So I very gently told my friend,"No, I can't take you to Decorah this afternoon. I just have too much going on today." I felt a twinge of guilt immediately after saying this because I feel like I disappointed someone. What is my problem? Why is it so hard to say no? Really this friend can find another ride and take care of herself, I just feel like I let someone down. I hope this feeling passes.
So, how do you disappoint someone without feeling guilty afterward?